Master your emotions

Equestrian sport is unique. We face the same pressures as other athletes, plus we partner with a living, unpredictable animal. That combination creates extreme highs and lows, victory and defeat, training wins and setbacks, horse care triumphs and challenges.

Those emotional swings affect performance and enjoyment. Success means different things to different riders: for one it’s simply turning up at a show, for another it’s a national title, and for someone else it might be mounting their horse. Wherever you are, results are relative.

Developing mental strength is essential. A ride can be decided before you even tack up: discipline gets you there, but unchecked emotions can set you up to fail. Horses aren’t machines, so they’ll have off days, but when you can manage your mind and control your thoughts, your outcomes and enjoyment improve dramatically.

Banish negative self-talk. If you’re having a rough day, reset before you approach your horse. Slow down, take deep breaths, and focus on the present hour with clear intent. Negative thoughts are just that—thoughts. Name them, breathe, and refocus on the ride. Your horse will respond better when you bring calm, positive energy.

Build a psychological toolbox. Prepare short mantras or phrases that resonate with you—“we are a team,” “trust the process,” or anything that restores confidence. Use these when doubt creeps in. Rehearsed mental cues are powerful tools in pressure moments.

Quit comparing yourself to others. This is a competitive sport, but everyone follows a different path. Everyone has bad scores; no one is immune. Learn from setbacks, celebrate the courage to compete, and be proud that you challenged yourself.

Master your emotions and the sport becomes more enjoyable and more rewarding—for you and your horse.

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