A practical guide to mental skills coaching for equestrians

We all hit times when we feel overwhelmed, stuck, or unsure. In sport and life those moments can feel permanent, but there’s always a path through — even if it’s hard to believe at first.

My own journey led me to seek help from a sports psychologist after struggling to perform under pressure, what followed transformed my mindset and my life. If you’re hesitating now, take the step — and the next one.

Step 1: Clarify your goals

Start by asking what you want to achieve: better competition focus, consistent training habits, confidence in the ring, or improved mindset off‑horse. Be honest about your time commitment and priorities. Clear goals help you find the right coach and get the most from the process.

Step 2: Find the right mental skills coach

Connection matters. You should feel supported and able to trust your mental skills coach. A productive coaching relationship may feel uncomfortable at times — that’s growth — but if it doesn’t feel safe or right, look elsewhere. Ask about their background, methods, availability, and cost. Referrals, online profiles, and sport-specific networks are great starting points.

Step 3: Make contact — and ask questions

Useful questions to ask your potential coach:

• What mental skills methods do you use?

• How do you structure a long-term programme?

• What is your availability and fee structure?

• What can I expect from the first session? How you feel on that call is a strong indicator of fit.

Step 4: Your first session

Expect information gathering, goal setting, and practical planning rather than instant fixes. Effective coaching builds over time. Be open about your history, current obstacles, and what success looks like for you. Your coach should respect your pace and boundaries while challenging you to grow.

Notes for getting the most from coaching:

The coaching relationship mirrors other relationships

You may recreate familiar patterns with a coach — that’s normal and often useful. A good coach provides a safe corrective experience, helping you work through unhelpful patterns and develop new approaches.

Coaching works when you do the work

There’s no quick fix. Consistent practice, honest reflection, and follow-through between sessions are where progress happens.

Be honest and prepared

Coaching requires honesty. Expect practical “homework” — mental skills drills, routines, and reflection exercises. Showing up prepared amplifies results.

Not every session will feel productive

Some sessions are breakthrough; others consolidate. That’s all part of the process.

Ask questions

Understanding the rationale behind techniques helps you own the work and stay motivated.

Coaching is not a quick fix It’s an investment.

Allow time to integrate new skills and mindset shifts.

Discomfort is part of growth

If you feel anxious about sessions, tell your coach — that information helps them tailor support.

You don’t need a diagnosis to benefit

Mental skills coaching supports performance, resilience, and wellbeing at any stage. Seeking help is a strength, not a weakness.

Final thought - Taking the first step to work on your mindset can feel daunting, but it often brings profound relief and progress. Commit to the journey, be kind to yourself, and see how far you can go when you treat your mind like an athlete.

If you want to get out of your own way and break through limiting beliefs, check out my mindset courses, or book a 1 on 1 mindset session!