Ride your own path- handling criticism in equestrian sport

One of the toughest parts of equestrian life is managing criticism, both the constructive kind you pay for and the loud, unsolicited opinions from sideliners. I know how tempting it is to hide at home and only show highlights online. I stopped competing my dream horse for over a year because one person’s comment convinced me I couldn’t. When I finally entered again, I placed last, and the world kept turning! I kept showing up, and now competing is fun. If I can do it, you can too. Here’s how to reclaim your confidence and use criticism to grow.

Reframe your reaction

• Not every comment is truth. Someone else’s negativity usually reflects their own insecurities, not your worth.

• Don’t let one voice derail your dream. Choose your internal narrative over outside noise.

Lean into discomfort

• Do more, not less. Repeated exposure to uncomfortable situations makes them easier and often enjoyable. Avoidance only strengthens fear.

Distinguish useful feedback from noise

• Take on constructive criticism that helps you improve; discard passive, ego‑driven comments meant to pull you down.

• If criticism triggers your insecurities, recognise that it’s your internal story being tapped into—not an objective reality.

Protect your softness

• Softness is a strength in horsemanship. Being kind, sensitive and empathetic with your horse requires you to stay soft, not hardened.

• Allow yourself to feel upset, then channel it into productive action rather than retreat.

Practical steps to move forward

• Show up anyway. Each return builds confidence.

• Keep a record of progress to counter negative narratives.

• Surround yourself with people who genuinely support your journey.

• Practice simple mindset tools: breathe, name the thought, and refocus on the task.

Final thought

Criticism will always exist. The real work is building the inner resilience to keep going anyway—soft, curious, and determined. Protect your mind, nurture your confidence, and ride your own path.

If you want to get out of your own way and break through limiting beliefs, check out my mindset courses, or book a 1 on 1 mindset session!